Thursday, June 18, 2009


My name is Chichi Nwoko. I am the self-procliamed relationship expert on African Diaspora relationships. See as an Irish born Nigerian living in America, dating and relationships come with there own sets of issues and challenges; so who better to be the expert on them than myself. After reading my blogs, I promise you too will agree that I am indeed an expert.

I have decided to start this blog because I have a lot to say. Soon, I will NOT COOK will turn into a nice fancy website with all the bells and whistles, but until then, well, it is what it is.

Let me start by saying that I will NOT COOK is not the same as I do not know how to cook. I actually enjoy cooking. For me it is like an experiment somedays and other days it is like an art form. Furthermore, I believe, every woman, as a matter of fact every human being should know how to prepare a meal to feed themselves. Men, yes that includes you too.

Okay. The name of my blog is a bit hostile but that is not my intention. It actually came about one day when I was on the phone with one of my friends and she was lamenting about the expectations that men, specifically African men have on their African women--to cook. I had heard similar frustrations echoed by a lot of my other female friends, both the married and the unmarried.

This is going to be fun and real. I invite you to add your comments and questions. Also tell a friend, to tell a friend, to tell a friend.


  1. This will most certainly get an interesting debate started in the days,and months ahead.When we had first chewed over this i thought it was a fresh medium of expressing the different veiw points on so many issues affecting our daily lives as Africans,almost noble(lol).I still think its fresh ,and smart,so am just gonna sit back and enjoy this one. Though am almost certain I definitely will not cook.

  2. Thanks Ugo!!!

    You are officially the first commenter on my blog!!! Thanks a whole lot. I am excited to share my views and also learn from others as well. And by the end of it all...we will get you cooking. But wait, I know that you do cook, so what are you talking about. Lots of love and thanks again.

  3. Interesting topic. I've always wanted to ask African Women about this cookin hangup that some of them have, so I look forward to reading their points of view.
    First let me premise my position by saying I have always looked at a woman cooking for me as an extention and expression of her love (My Mom, Shirley from accross the street who made me those slamming Lasagna or my sister Joyce throwing down on Thanksgiving).
    I also look at it the same way when Shirley asked me to accompany her on a 2hr ride to Brooklyn on what I thought was the coldest day ever (at least in recent history)or traveling all the way to Univerisity of Uyo(during rainy season) to visit my sister when she was a Professor there.
    We give, we share, we sacrifice that's what to me makes a relationship work. So if your not going to cook what are your expectations of me? Or will you not have any? Hmmmmmm


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