I WILL NOT COOK!

The 6th paragraph reminds me of an African Movie c...

2009-12-13T15:36:33.670-08:00

The 6th paragraph reminds me of an African Movie called "Power of her Majesty". The women played the role of men... It was quite disturbing and entertaining at the same time.

To fi ya kwa

2009-12-13T15:25:57.931-08:00

To fi ya kwa

Love, a four letter word.. Simple and Powerful......

2009-12-13T15:20:25.816-08:00

Love, a four letter word..
Simple and Powerful...

The moment we allow ourselves to understand it the better we become

In today’s society, women are on the grind. They a...

2009-06-24T11:32:17.554-07:00

In today’s society, women are on the grind. They are wives, mothers, workers, business owners, students, etc. For me, there is something about having to think about what to cook for someone every blessed day.
Whao! Newsflash! Everyone is on the grind not just women! Why is he your man if thinking about what to do to make him happy is a chore? You effortlessly juggle your work schedule, maybe you are the top performer at work and maybe you’re even bringing home major cheddar but thinking about your man's happiness is like lifting a ton of bricks! I don't know, but I think you should have told guy to save his ring that you were already married-to your job.

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Again I think you are missing the point on this whole issue. Whether a woman cooks for me or not I'm still going to eat. There are hundreds of restaurants that I can stop at and have a nice dinner served to me by a smiling appreciative tight body 21years old so don't get it twisted your not doing me a favor.

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Women looking at being a housewife as being low level position.
So because you got edumacation the nurturing, loving, caring side of you doesn’t work anymore. Heels over apron! But ask yourself is it working? Are our relationships actually better off with all this stuff? If you ask me a successful home need both.
My Mom was a housewife, worked as a nurse in New York, received her PHD from College of New Rochelle, raised six kids and had 2 clinics in Nigeria. So, sorry I can’t buy it. You can love your family and still be successful in your career. Life is not easy and its not meant to be, so stop making excuses as to why you can't give of yourself to your family but you can do it for 8-12 hours for the outside world.

Interesting topic. I've always wanted to ask A...

2009-06-23T03:47:57.695-07:00

Interesting topic. I've always wanted to ask African Women about this cookin hangup that some of them have, so I look forward to reading their points of view.
First let me premise my position by saying I have always looked at a woman cooking for me as an extention and expression of her love (My Mom, Shirley from accross the street who made me those slamming Lasagna or my sister Joyce throwing down on Thanksgiving).
I also look at it the same way when Shirley asked me to accompany her on a 2hr ride to Brooklyn on what I thought was the coldest day ever (at least in recent history)or traveling all the way to Univerisity of Uyo(during rainy season) to visit my sister when she was a Professor there.
We give, we share, we sacrifice that's what to me makes a relationship work. So if your not going to cook what are your expectations of me? Or will you not have any? Hmmmmmm

Thanks Ugo!!! You are officially the first comme...

2009-06-22T08:26:47.993-07:00

Thanks Ugo!!!

You are officially the first commenter on my blog!!! Thanks a whole lot. I am excited to share my views and also learn from others as well. And by the end of it all...we will get you cooking. But wait, I know that you do cook, so what are you talking about. Lots of love and thanks again.

This will most certainly get an interesting debate...

2009-06-19T15:46:50.172-07:00

This will most certainly get an interesting debate started in the days,and months ahead.When we had first chewed over this i thought it was a fresh medium of expressing the different veiw points on so many issues affecting our daily lives as Africans,almost noble(lol).I still think its fresh ,and smart,so am just gonna sit back and enjoy this one. Though am almost certain I definitely will not cook.